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The Narcissist Test

A checklist to help determine the nature
and degree, if any, of narcissistic behavior.

Narcissism is Freud's term, coming from the classical myth of Narcissus, a handsome young man who saw his reflection in a pool. Not realizing what it was; instead thinking it was some beautiful water creature, he fell in love with his image and could not tear himself away from the side of the pool. In time, he was transformed into the flower that now bears his name. This is why the narcissus bloom still turns downward, like his gaze.

What is Narcissism?

A little healthy narcissism is a normal condition which promotes self-esteem, ambition and the ability to create successful, loving relationships.  Negatively, it can range from simple self-centeredness to the personality disorder of pathological narcissism.

Narcissism is expressed by strong feelings of both inferiority and grandiosity, demands for constant attention and difficulties in love relationships.  It can be characterized by an abnormal love of self, being self-absorbed, and an inability to empathize with the affects of one's behavior on others.

What Causes It?

It is theorized that Narcissism can be caused by the failure of a mother to meet her infant's needs and has its roots in childhood.  It can also be caused by parents who desire their children to be talented or special in order to maintain their own self-esteem.

The manifestations of Narcissism begin to appear in early adulthood, including the individual's belief in 'special entitlement'.  The cause may sometimes be the lack of boundaries set by parents, causing narcissistic people to be unable to perceive themselves and others accurately.

How The Narcissist Test Works

You simply fill out the answers to all the questions as honestly as you can. What the questions are asking is, does the individual in question have these feelings or exhibit these characteristics or behaviors habitually? The results of your answers will give you an idea of the degree of the person's narcissism, if any, and reveal the behavior patterns and ways s/he manifests it in his/her life.

Since you are answering the questions with someone else in mind, you can also decide if your relationship with them is codependent as a result. You may choose to let them know what your feelings about them are - or not - as you see fit. We hope this test will provide you with the basis for a deeper understanding of the individual and your relationship with them; and perhaps be a starting point for their personal growth.

(NOTE: No information is kept so there is nothing that can be used for any other purpose.)

Complete honesty will provide a more accurate understanding of you and your partner's feelings and values and give you grounds for a healthy discussion of your relationship.

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