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The Codependency Test

A checklist to help you determine the nature
and degree, if any, of codependency!


"The Codependency Test is a useful tool in my practice. I treat domestic violence offenders and
intend to use this test as a part my dissertation. I would recommend it for your use."
Dr. David Womack, D. Min.
Pastoral Counselor - A Helping Hand Counseling
San Diego, CA

The word codependency has been overused and misused in recent years but still describes a condition of psychologically dysfunctional behavior that can be healed.  By any definition, we are all codependent to one degree or another.

Originally the term was used to describe simply being a partner in dependency with reference to substance abuse such as alcohol or drugs.  A more comprehensive description by Robert Subby in his book, Co-Dependency, An Emerging Issue is, "An emotional, psychological and behavioral condition that develops as a result of an individual's prolonged exposure to, and practice of, a set of oppressive rules - rules which prevent the open expression of feeling as well as the direct discussion of personal and interpersonal problems."

A further and succinct definition is, "Those self-defeating, learned behaviors or character defects that result in a diminished capacity to initiate or to participate in loving relationships."  This by Earnie Larsen, an expert in the field of codependency.

The only person we can ever change is ourselves.  If you change, the nature and dynamics of your relationships will change, but you will never be able to change another person and nor should you, for that is itself codependent.

How The Codependency Test Works

You simply fill out the answers to all the questions as honestly as you can.  What the questions are asking is, do you have these feelings or exhibit these characteristics or behaviors on a regular basis unless otherwise specified. The results of your answers will give you an idea of the degree of your codependency and reveal the behavior patterns and ways you manifest it in your life.  This, then, would become a starting point for your personal growth.

If you are answering the questions with someone else in mind, the same will hold true for them and you can decide if your relationship with them is codependent as a result.  You may choose to let them know what your feelings about them are - or not - as you see fit.  We hope this test will provide you with the basis for a deeper understanding of yourself and your relationships.

(NOTE: No information is kept so there is nothing that can be used for any other purpose.)

Complete honesty will provide a more accurate understanding of yourself and your behaviors and give you grounds for further growth as a person.

Click to take the Test

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